In our marriage, I am free to express my opinions. I feel heard and appreciated. I do not at all feel like a doormat. My husband is not the lord of me nor does he want to be—praise God! We both want to follow Christ and we have the freedom in our home to do just that. It is a very beautiful thing—not restrictive or terrible like some people would have you believe—given both husband and wife desire to obey God, and not merely please themselves.
Complementarianism demonstrates God’s goodness to His people. He created us with different gifts and abilities to live out the roles He designed for us—different roles, but equal value. One is not superior to the other. There’s freedom in using the gifts and abilities that God has given us. Complementarian women are not oppressed—the command for wives to submit to their husbands is not oppression for women when husbands love their wives as Christ loves His church.
God gives us all we need for life and godliness—to live lives pleasing to Him. It works. The design is perfect. Sin gets in the way at times, and sadly that has led to disastrous results over the course of history, but there is no flaw in the design, because it was designed by God for our very best. It’s when both parties are trying to please God with their lives that complimentarianism is truly a joy.
Thank you Lord, for your goodness to us! Please help us to understand more and more your beautiful design for men and women.
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